...a lesson on love that I felt compelled to share with you all :)

ok..so basically..the thought of a relationship should be much simpler than it is. Guys think with their penises and girls think with, well, generally their head. In reality, we should all be thinking with our HEART. Guys generally date off good looks and girls date off of personalities..when people ask us about a guy we generally say "He's just soo funny" haha. What we should look for in a guy is if he's a Godly guy. Remember, right now is as good as we will ever look..boobs begin to sag, buts begin to droop and in 20 years, looks won't even matter. People often get confused between a Christian and someone who lives a Godly life. Travis ( the actor) kept reitterating that do not just date someone who is a 'Christian"..look beyond that. Girls should look for a guy who treats his mother with respect. Guys should look for girls who treat their Fathers with respect. If you treat your mom/dad badly, then eventually that is how your spouse will treat you. Look for a leader, not the the kind of leader who everyone follows because he's fun and likes to have a good time..look for the leader who leads his life through Christ. Look for someone who DOES NOT care what ANYONE thinks about him because he knows that it doesn't matter and in God's eyes he is nothing but perfect. On the topic of sex and intercourse and whatever else..God didn't entend for those things to be saved for marriage because he wanted to take away the 'fun'..he intended them for marriage to keep us safe. He wants to protect us and along with hooking up/sex/ etc. it just brings up problems and insecurtities in the relationship. You sometimes begin to put your focus on different areas that keep the relationship from growing. Their is a boundary to where you should stop..no one knows the real boundary whether it be holding hands, kissing or what..but I think it's safe to see that with a natural intutiotion you can make your own boundary to what you feel is right. God doesn't want us handing out pieces of ourself to just whoever..he wants us to save it for that special person as their 'gift' from us to them. On the contrary, if your starting to date someone and they fit the Godly lifestyle that you want to see in a man/women then who cares if they have had sex with 5 people or 20..because they have been washed clean. We should not hold judgement, because if we do then we aren't living the way we are suppose to. God intended sex and LOTS OF IT...that's why he made a woman to be a mans companion and especially to fortake on the most pleasurable thing you can do, SEX. For a relationship..always watch someone's character..watch how they treat their friends..watch how the interact with others..and most importantly watch how they speak about others. To avoid all the sexual tension between you and the person your dating..try group dates and always surround yourself with others..it takes the pressure off. Don't go searching for someone..because he is out there..and you will find him. If you start doubting a relationship and marriage, then you are doubting God. Remember also, your not generally going to find Mr. perfect out town hopping..or at the bar (can happen but not generally). God wants us to have someone and doesn't ever want us to be alone. Guys should look at their girlfriend as a child of his..we should look at each others hearts. Love each other as a child of God..always be honest and open..let them know your insecurities..help heal each other..walk side by side along with God. Forgive and move on..TRUST TRUST TRUST..don't be scared to put your heart out there..relationships should be easy not complicated ( we as humans are what make them so complicated )with texting, facebook and all those other things. And my favorite..with all our insecurtities if you try and wait to give yourself to who you love..then your insecurties won't matter because you will know that no matter what, he always loves you. He'll think every inch of fat, stretch mark or sagginess is the most beautiful thing he's ever seen..because he knows your heart and he knows who made your body :)..also we have to be patient and believe and remeber *Love can wait to give but lust can't wait to get*.. I know there is a LOT more to this talk and it little things will come to me that of course I will share..this is what came to my mind and I hope you enjoy it!
Angel

what Ive learned thus far

Wow, it's been almost four months (or longer) since I last blogged. Last night I went out for drinks with my best friend Leeza. We had been discussing what to do for spring break this year. Spring break is always a big ordeal and can often be super frustrating trying to organize/plan while staying on a budget. We decided this year we wanted to go on a cruise with our two other best friends for our last 'shabang'. Long story short, neither one of us want to spend a lot of money because we are literaly pinching pennies for our future move to Spain in September. So, as were sipping wine Leeza said, 'Angel, why do we have to go on a cruise when we could go somewhere super simple.. because doesn't it make sense that it shouldn't matter where you go but more importantly WHO YOUR WITH.' I kinda had a cometojesus moment. DUH, she was so right..although don't get me wrong it is always nice going on big, fancy carribean trips that force you to face reality whenever it's over but in the end it's all about who your with not necesarilly where you go. One day when I'm not a struggling college student it will be different but for now I could be in a big brown box with these three for all I care. But, if I have Kenzie to pour the wine, Kasey to tell us the latest gossip and Leeza to be the realist then life is good. P.S and if I get lucky and Leeza lets me brush out her super curly hair then life gets 10 times better.

Seven/Sixteen

BONJOUR!...guess where I am..Well, not Paris but close enough. The HAMPTONS! Yes, I am in the Hampton's for two weeks to nanny. I have never been and it is most definitely everything I imagined it being. I am here babysitting three sweet boys named Dylan, Ryan and Connor. But, as far as that goes, this trip will be told on the next post so you'll have to stay tuned. As you may know, or may not depending how close we are, last week (hints the seven/sixteen) was my birthday. I just turned twenty-two and I could not be more excited to be getting older. There's something about saying 'twenty-two' that just seems so mature. Maybe I'm starting to feel more cool or wish I was more mature sometimes haha. All I can say is that I'm happy that I'm not twenty-one anymore (sorry twenty-one year olds you'll understand me soon). This birthday was one of the best birthdays that I have ever had, except for my Barbie birthday when I turned seven. I'm not sure that I will ever be able to top that. Two of my best friends came in town ( Elizabeth and Leeza ). Elizabeth stayed with Tiffany and Leeza stayed with me. Leeza bussed over from Georgetown and got there Friday afternoon just in time for the bash. Before she got there we started the day by going to see the Today Show where Enrique Iglesias performed for conert Friday’s. I have never been a huge fan of him, but now you could probably call me president of his fan club. He is SO CUTE and I am obsessed. P.S his new cd is in stores now so go get it (he asked me personally to help promote so hey, I’ll do what I can)! I'm still not sure if he like's men though..Maybe he's confused but that doesn't matter because he is SEXAY and seems to have a GREAT personality. So, after that we walked around and did all the cutesy touristy things. As the night approached we got ready (Leeza was there by then) and my roommates through me a party on our rooftop. Jasmine was head of the party planning and I cannot thank her enough. She did wonderful and made everything so special! Our rooftop is on the 37th floor that overlooks the city with an incredible view. There was about twenty people and we did cupcakes, champagne toast and the whole shin-dig of a birthday celebration. Dinner was at 10 where we had appetizers, drinks and lots of guacamole! After dinner a friend of mine was able to get us on the guest list of a club called Tenjune. We had to get there at EXACTLY 11:30 sharp or else we wouldn't be able to get in. Keep in mind, everyone had to at least be 5'6 and extremely 'good-looking' (according to the guy that let us in). That made me a little mad because these people are so unrealistic but hey, whatever makes them feel cool I guess. Luckily, we all got in (I stood on my tippy-toes) and sprinted on by. He had no clue. We had our own party table and the only place I could be found was on the dance floor. Leeza was my personal dance partner for the night. If there was a dance off we would have most definitely won. We brought out the speratic pointing fingers while bobbing our heads (trying to be cool though) , stirred the soup and I'm sure she shopping cart made an appearance once or twice. So, Leeza, on my behalf thanks for being a BIG embarrassment with me! After we were danced out we decided to head home and hang out on the terrace. We had a nice little chat about a whole bunch of nothing and then went to bed. The rest of the weekend the four of us (me, Leeza, Elizabeth and Tiffany) hung out in the city, ate, went and saw the famous places in Sex and the City, ate some more, SAW HEIDI KLUM, ate some cupcakes, went to ground zero, central park, Wall Street and times square. We ended the night with wine on the rooftop and all in all, it was a wonderful weekend with great friends and good conversation. Kenzie, Molly, Kasey, Rachel…you were missed so very much and I wish you could have been here with me. I miss you and love you!


Friends and family are who make us ‘us..never forget that.

AKH

How to entertain a boy in NY

Its 1:36 AM and I'm wide awake in my bed. I tried counting sheep, said the alphabet over and over and even counted to one-hundred multiple times. So, here I am doing what I love to do.BLOG! I have had a long, fun-filled day with wonderful friends! Austin (with an I not E) and his friend Robby came to visit me today. Austin is a friend from home and Robby is one of his teammates from Kansas. All I could think about today was The Wizard of Oz, haha. They are currently living in Fishkill, NY which is about an hour and a half on a train to the city. Today was one of their off days so of course I insisted they come visit! They only had a day in the city so how in the world do you fit NYC in ONE day. So, I did lots of preparation before they got here because I wanted them to have the ultimate experience. Little did I know it was the most difficult entertaining I've ever done. Whenever you ask a guy what they want to do they never have an opinion and don't speak up until after the decision is made. On the other hand, a girl generally has a planned schedule with of course, breakfast, lunch and dinner strictly marked on the agenda. Boys can go all day long without eating whereas girls CANNOT skip a meal because they think they are going to die of hunger. Boys hate shopping whereas girls never have money, but somehow find than extra 20 bucks for that shirt at gap that's an additional 40% off. Oh, or J.Crew because you better believe I just got my email of the blowout one day only sale on the boyfriend jeans. Boys think trees are trees and grass is grass so what’s the big deal about Central Park. Girls think every inch of it is absolutely breathtaking and could sit and stare at the ridiculously cute couples walking past wishing it were them. Oh, did I mention that as were staring at couples were also talking about our weddings and how beautiful they would be by the willow trees? Or, how those purple with a hint of baby blue hydrangeas would make for a perfect flower arrangement? Boys think, Trump Towers? What's the big deal Donald Trump is a big D-bag anyways. Girls think, oh my gosh...isn't that where the famous show The Apprentice is taped...I MUST get a picture! Ok, I could go on and on about the differences between girls and boys so I think you probably get my point. My trip did not go as planned. My exciting and fun filled day consisted of going to a Brewery for lunch, Times Square, my apartment to 'rest', Central Park, Starbucks, Madison Square Gardens, back to my apartment to rest for the second time and then the grand finale, dinner at Duke's! I really scored some brownie points there. Needless to say I think it was the highlight of their day because it was good southern barbeque. Now whether I think they will become future New Yorkers and dream to live in the city one day, probably not. Did we have a wonderful day, yes for sure. After all I now know how to plan a trip for guys. Simple is the key and give them a beer and they are happy. Stay tuned..D.C is next!
Xoxo

TWO WEEKS!

Wow, I cannot believe that I have been in NYC for TWO WEEKS. It has absolutely flown by and I have been so busy. Last weekend, I went out with Morgan, Jasmine, Jay and his friend Chrissy. We went to a place called SL Lounge in the meat packing district. It was absolutely incredible and had eccentric lighting with x-ray pictures all over the walls for decoration. It may have been the coolest atmosphere EVER. As my first nightlife outing in NYC it definitively put Tuscaloosa, Alabama to shame, surprise! haha. We have met lots of people and  new friends. This past weekend I hung out, ran errands and got a real big feel for the city. Morgan is a nanny for a family with three boys so on Tuesday I went with her and Dylon (the little boy that she sits) around town and to the park. He is adorable and so sweet. On Thursday and Friday I had a nanny job for an eleven year old boy named Sammy. He is really cool and thinks I’m really cool so therefore that’s pretty cool. On Thursday I picked Sammy up from school and we went to the USS Intrepid, Sea, Air and Space, museum. For those of you who don't know the intrepid is battleship that served during WWII. Sammy is so smart and made me feel so dumb because he literally knew EVERYTHING about this ship.He was my little personal tour guide. Don't get me wrong, I thought it was pretty cool until three hours later we were had only made it to the second floor (out of four). But to say the least I’m really glad I was able to fill my brain with some knowledge. Oh also, did I mention that Sammy is in the same class with James Gandolfini’s (from the Sopranos) son and the NY Yankees catcher Jorge Pasada’s son! On Friday, before I picked him up from school I was at the park drinking my starbucks and glanced up and saw BEN STILLER!!!..I could not believe it. Don't worry; I managed to sneak a picture but only of his behind, oh well. I got to experience Dave and Busters (New York style) and the park where I chased after Sammy the whole time on his scooter. He’s eleven so of course he thought that was hilarious. This weekend we went to Brother Jimmy's BBQ with lots of southern hospitality and then met up with friends and then went out. Morgans friend Allie (and mine of course) is in town visiting and I'm so glad she is here with us!Yesterday we hung out on our rooftop and then went to a show called Naked Boys Singing. Now if you please, let your imagination flow and understand that the show was EXACTLY what it sounds like. I think I may be scarred for life and I was so embarrassed haha. This week I have lots of work and I can't wait to get back to you. I hope you, wherever you are, are having a wonderful, safe and blessed journey. Adios and I will be back very very soon!


XOXO

FIRST NIGHT IN NYC

Hello everyone!..for those of you who didn't know, I have moved to the Big Apple. But dont worry, I'll be back down south in August (unless I find my calling out here haha). Yesterday my flight left at 1:45 pm and I arrived at 5:10 pm. I had a very nice flight and sat to the family owner of Sneaky Pete's! Small World! He was actually the nephew of Pete. His name was Billy and he gave me lots of advice and recomendations for things to do that I must do while I am here, which of course was very helpful. After I ventured down to baggage claim ( which I could barely move considering I had two roly 50 lb. suitcases, my backpack, purse, and hat that I carried because I didn't want it to get smushed). I hopped in my taxi and headed across the bridge. I was just soooo excited to be here and of course jumped right on in that taxi and started talking 90 to nothing. That for sure didn't last long because Abdul (or whatever his name was) just was NOT having me. So..I gave up haha. After about a fifteen minute ride (due to afternoon traffic) I arrived at 505 37th street. It is absolutely beautiful. I am inlove and I have the most beautiful view of the Hudson to my right and the Empire State building to my left. We live up on the 11th floor that over looks the city. I got settled in, unpacked and then went to dinner at the most well known deli in America, Carnegie Deli. I had a turkey sandwhich that I can make three more meals out of due to left overs and Morgan got chicken noodle soup and a grilled cheese, surprise! ha. We came home and were exhausted but still so excited so needless to say I fell asleep around 2:30. I had an meeting this morning and it went great. I can't wait to keep you posted on my adventures, so stay tuned!!
XOXO

The Boarder

I am sure that we all  remember learning about the U.S/Mexican boarder in highschool. It all began whe the U.S took over and claimed the Mexican land.Well this past week I got the opportunity to see the boarder fence and the Rio Grande. I must admit that it is the most ridiculous fence that I have ever seen. My 10 year old niece could build a better fence. It makes total sense to why we have so many illegal aliens in our country. On the other hand, I was able to go to mexico also. We easily drove in to Mexico but had to show our passports coming back in to the United States. I know that the drug wars are going on but for some reason I was completely calm. My mom was a nervous wreck and of course my dad wanted to go no matter what. We of course had to be festive, so for lunch I ordered chicken and my dad ordered steak. Now remeber, the meat is completely different than what we are customed to. I had one bite and that was all. My dad ejoyed his steak and of couse my mom was a little dramatic and couldn't believe we were eating. She became so disgusted and chose to shop instead. Haha, can we say DRAMA QUEEN. It was a great experience and although I have been before, this side opened my eyes to true poverty. I know that they are living in complete poverty, but I still feel that the U.S should take more control over who are entering our country. I feel this because they are taking away jobs. I do not want to sound hateful because I understand they are fighting for the "American Opportunity", but I feel that they should gain their U.S citizenship the right way. Also, I learned how to surf! It was soo much fun and props to surfers because it is a lot harder than it looks! I. MEAN. A. LOT. I surfed all day long and let me tell you, I could barely feel my arms the next day. Surfng is something I've always wanted to learn. I hope to continue this hobby from now on. It is great fun and excercise and everyone should try it!
Knarly dude.
Angel